Dear Husbands...

An ordinary Tuesday might seem like a strange day to think of something special to do for your wife. But this ordinary day really is the perfect day because you’re not supposed to do anything today. And that simple fact alone will capture your wife’s heart.

I know women sometimes seem complicated and overly sensitive at times. But really we’re not. We just want to be thought of in a way that makes us feel special.

One kind act by you can cover a multitude of everyday stresses.

I’m serious.


Now before you head off to Victoria and her store of secrets… that’s not it. Her secrets are scratchy and too small in areas we feel are too big. We’ll save that for another ordinary Tuesday when I write a note to wives.

The special thing I’m talking about doesn’t have to take a lot of time or cost money. It just has to say you thought of her… you paused to notice her… she’s special to you.

Maybe tuck a little note in her purse that simply says some version of that last sentence.

Or, write the word “Perfect” on a piece of paper and tape it over the numbers on her scale.

Or, finally get around to doing that avoided item on the honey-do list.

Or, send her a text message telling her three things you think she does better than any other person you know.

The possibilities are endless.

But the point is this… One simple dandelion on a no-name day means more to your wife than a dozen roses on a Hallmark holiday.The heart of a woman longs to be thought of, adored, and noticed. Not because you’re obligated to do so because a date on the calendar demands it, but rather just because you love her. Don’t let today slip by.

It’s the perfect day to give her what she can’t get from any other person – the love of her husband.

“Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church- a love marked by giving, not getting.  Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her…”  Eph. 5:25-27 (MSG). ~That scripture goes on to say (through verse 28): "And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor—since they're already "one" in marriage." I remember when my husband sent this scripture in this version to me in a text... made me smile! His text went on to read: "A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. 'Many women have done wonderful things, but you've outclassed them all!' Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!"... Proverbs 31 (MSG)